A Social Distancing Queer Christian Coffee Convo

Wherever two or three meet, G0D is gay there.

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION: A simple image of a rainbow colored coffee cup with a black cross on it.]

Yesterday (Saturday, 29 August 2020), I was able to have a socially distant but face-to-face coffee conversation with a good friend who is also a queer Christian. I shared my Trans, Queer, Punk, and XTIAN (link opens in a new tab) post with him and he asked if we could meet to talk about the similarities of our childhood experiences. 

He was raised Mormon, and I was raised Roman Catholic. Sure enough, there were some similarities in our experiences And these similarities weren’t just in our childhoods but in our adult lives, too. We both are Christian. We both were raised in Christian traditions which were unsupportive at best and openly hostile at worst to anything other than the heterosexual gender binary. It’s not surprising, to me, how many trans, queer, and gay persons who were raised in conservative Christian end up rejecting Christianity in particular if not religion in general. But I also know from experience that there are Pagan traditions which can be hostile to anything other than the gender binary, with very strict roles for men and women. While those binary Pagan gender roles do seem to put women as equal to men, they leave out or shun completely anybody outside the binary.

We talked about how our religions, genders, and orientations affect our creative works and how they inform our professional lives as well. It’s not lost on either of us that the Gospel of Jesus is essentially communist in its economics and hostile to the rich. We talked about how we can try to lead lives as economically ethical as possible in a society as economically corrupt as ours. 

It was so refreshing to talk about being a Christian who is queer so casually. I haven’t really done this very much since a roommate moved after being called to a church in Minnesota. Oh, the casual theological conversations that just happen among queer keepers of the faith. It’s … well, it’s a blessing.