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A Jesist in Advent: Love

Today is Sunday, 10 December 2017. It’s the second Sunday in Advent and the theme is Love. This was a bit odd to me, as I’m used to Peace being the second week. But, I digress…

I’m beginning to wonder if using Facebook is detrimental to my ability to Love. This is the second Sunday in a row that I’ve encountered heterosexist/homophobic and cissexist/transphobic comments on a friend’s post. I know there are a great many people out there who hate persons like me, even without ever having met me. It’s always so shocking, though, to encounter their sentiments. If somebody tries to post things like that on my page, their comments get deleted and they get blocked. If their comments violate the Facebook terms and conditions, they get reported, too. While I would greatly appreciate it if my friends would do the same to people who comment on their posts, I understand that it’s their FB pages. They can handle them as they see fit. I’d like to say more on this, but that might not be construed as very Loving on my part.

I know there are people I will never be able to reason with. I have blood relatives who were rabidly anti queer and anti trans before I came out. And, I have at least two cousins who are older than me who are gay. So, it’s not like I’m the first LGBTQIA+ person in the extended family. But it wasn’t until I went from second son to first daughter did some of the bigotry end. What bigotry ended? The jokes. That’s about it. These relatives still vote for candidates and politicians who work to make my life illegal, restricting or rescinding my rights. I’ve tried bringing the Advent Gift of Love to them to no avail, and they won’t bring Love to me either, not while they vote the way they do. And since I can’t transition race, I know I’ll never get through to them on issues of racism no matter how hard I try and have tried in the past. If they won’t change to defend me, their kin, what makes me or anybody else think I can change their minds about racism?

Every day of my life, I am confronted by those who seek to destroy trans persons. The only “Love” they offer is telling me how damned I am. I know from experience that I can count of men and women of all races, orientations, and classes to hurl hate in the direction of my community. I could offer them Love, but to what purpose? It will be rejected out of hand. I know they won’t extend to me the Love I desire and require. And when so much of this hatred comes from people who identify as Christians, saying they are justified by GOD, it should come as no surprise I call myself a Jesist.

So, I bring the Advent Gift of Love to others like me. If I can offer them some measure of comfort, I will do so. To my allies, I will offer gratitude. I would not be alive without them. And since I use Facebook to connect with my allies and the members of my community, I won’t be giving it up any time soon. For those who seek the destruction of the trans and gender-expansive communities, may the Light-bringer hold them and keep them, now and for ever.

Amen, and Blessed Be.

Guidance

“So, now that I’ve made all these tools, what do you want of me?” I asked. “Well, you use them, of course!” She said. “But I’m not sure how, and for what purpose!” She sighed. “I suppose it’s only fair to tell you since we had you write the journey in the first place. Ok, […]

Advent 2016: Apocalyptic Love

Sunday, 18 December 2016

Today is the fourth Sunday in Advent.
The theme is Love and I was at St. Gregory of Nyssa Episcopal Church
for worship again

The English word “Love” is so
simple yet complicated. When I tell my friends I Love them, it means
something different than when I tell my kids I Love them or when I’ve
told partners I Love them. Love is a word I’ve used to describe
books and movies and music and food, as well as my relationships with
people.

And earlier this week, I read a book
called Weird People by Jarrard Martin. It was a book about
Love and being bisexual. And with any book about Love and
relationships, reading it was thought-provoking. How have I been
experiencing Love in my life? How have I Loved? How have I been
Loved? How can I Love more?

I’ve encountered people who say they
Love me, and yet vote for legislation and for politicians that end up
threatening or limiting my civil rights. And, they are aware of what
they’re doing when they cast these votes. Can they truly say the
Love me when they take these actions? What is the Loving response I
should offer when legality of my life is challenged and threatened by
these votes?

Love is not the absence of challenge,
strife and adversity. In fact, it could be argued that those things
are necessary for one to truly Love those around them.

And that seems to be Apocalyptic Love:
Loving someone enough to be able to tell them they are causing you
harm.

Be blessed.

TWIH Episode 76: Being Heathen with Cara Freyasdaughter

In this episode, we talk to Cara Freyasdaughter, where we discuss her journey to Heathenism, her introduction to Freya and Freyr, and some of the issues that are challenging modern Heathenism. What are  CUUPs and ADF? What does the lore say about racism and other issues that have been being dealt with within the Heathen […]